No matter how you were brought up or taught as a child, you have some bias and opinion about something. Young girls are told not to ask out the boy because they are supposed to ask you out.

Boys are not allowed to feel sad when the girl breaks up with them because it shows weakness. Certain double standards have continued into adulthood that should be looked over and changed. No guy should feel pressured to do something because they are a guy and vice versa.
The most common double standard that comes up is a person’s sexual body count. Men boost about the amount of woman they have sex with, but woman are shamed when telling how many they have. Why is this?

Guys will say it’s disgusting to hear a woman having a body count more than a certain number. Meanwhile they probably have double that. Both parties have equal exposure to transmitted infections. Its not like women are dirty if they have a certain body count. It also affects males when they say they maybe have never slept with anyone and the person who was interested in him thinks something is wrong with him. It is a situation where no one wins.
Something that is confusing when in a sexual relationship is when to initiate it. Who is supposed to make the first move? Am I supposed to take charge? Typically, it is seen that the male is supposed to do all the work. This is a lot of pressure for one person. Who made up this undiscussed rule?

Women should be able to feel comfortable speaking about their wants and desires without feeling uncomfortable. In a relationship, you should have the capability to grab your partner and tell them you want to have sex. Tell them about the different positions and kinky things you want to do without the fear of gender roles. A female participant on campus says it’s confusing and annoying because if you do something out of the norm you are judged immediately.  

Once you’re in foreplay, there seems to be a miscommunication of who gets it or “who’s more important.” What this means is giving oral but not receiving. This also goes for a one person having an orgasm but not the other. For giving oral, it goes both ways, a girl wants but doesn’t give or a guy wanting it but doesn’t return the favor.

However, for orgasms, it seems the male’s orgasm is priority over their partner. Communication is super important. A male participant on campus states that he loves to give just as he receives, and he encourages his friends to do the same.

 For those in a relationship, some double standards will happen when going to the bar. Girls will be okay with accepting free drinks at a bar from a stranger, but if a guy accepted the drink they would be in trouble. What is the reasoning behind this? Is this technically cheating?

It’s time to stop the scenario types and just do what you want. Talk to you partner. Spice it up. Make sure both parties have orgasms. Take control and initiate sex. Being normal is boring. Always be safe when doing any type of sex and have fun, you horny husky!