“I’m going to tear your clothes from your body and ravish you the next time I see you”. This statement could be confusing to some people, but others could be truly intrigued by the idea. Talking dirty to your partner, or even just teasing your partner, definitely builds some serious sexual tension and attraction.

     Having bouts of sexual tension with your partner is definitely not a bad thing. We all know how frustrating it can be to sexually desire your significant other, but to be denied because of distance, whether physical or mental. Maybe you’re at different schools, or maybe you’re building tension for that special night. A build up of sexual tension can result in a continuously amazing sex, and overall, a more fulfilling sex life.

     Although, it is important to understand the difference between having sexual relations as the result of sexual tension, and then actually creating sexual tension yourself. Sexual relations as a result of sexual tension comes after the teasing. You act out whatever scene you had built up in your head previous to your current encounter. To help build sexual tension, you shouldn’t be afraid to tease your partner with your wildest fantasies that you’ve maybe always dreamed of acting out in real life. Another, tamer, way to build sexual tension is to simply deny your partner sex every once in a while. As you probably heard before, playing hard to get is the perfect way to get them to beg for you.

     Teasing your partner can be a fun way to let your naughty side come out to play. Teasing can mean telling your partner exactly what you want them to do to you, or it can be a subtler act. Being subtle with your teasing can cause even more sexual tension, enough that your partner is ready to burst. Maybe kiss them ever so lightly before pushing them away, telling them to work harder if they want more. You can also tease them in public by whispering into their ear, “I want to get on my knees right now and have you right here”, before quickly changing the subject, leaving them spinning and wanting more. Telling your partner how wet or hard you are could definitely get their juices flowing, no matter where you are.

     A not so subtle way to tease your partner is to let them catch you masturbating. Sometimes masturbating in front of your partner can be the best way to show just how much you desire them. You can also play the “are you nervous” game, by touching your partners thigh while going higher and higher, maybe under the table cloth at a fancy restaurant? This creates double tension as it’s not only intimate, but you’re also in a very public setting. Maybe this is an anniversary dinner, because once the desserts come out, you decide to slowly and sensually lick cream right off your partner’s fingers, all the while, gazing into their eyes. The eyes are the windows to the soul, or in this case, the sexual tension. You can tell your partner exactly what you want to do next, with your eyes alone.

     In the end the real goal of creating sexual tension relies on building up to a seriously special moment. You may play little tricks with your partner and tease them, but remember that the end game is always the release. Sexual tension can definitely be a good way to amp up the anticipation of sex. However, if you continue it forever, it can have the opposite effect on your original desires. If all you ever do is tease your partner, never giving in to the release, they could easily become frustrated, and your relationship could suffer because of it. So maybe next time you’re feeling a little naughty, test out these examples, or maybe some of your own, and see if you can spice up your sex life. But always remember to be safe and wear a condom!