Cuffing season has rounded the corner and is quickly coming to an end. So, you might have accumulated some, “friends” who were there to stay in with you throughout the cold months of winter and soothe those lack of vitamin D blues. They were the ones who would lounge around, watch movies with you, and help you cure that nasty hangover when the thought of going out was just too much. But now, with the nice weather approaching, the so-called “fling” might be staying over on weekdays and actually getting to know you as a person. Or maybe, the constant theme of hooking up that seemed to have plagued your winter, is now dwindling and you’re waiting to find the next best thing. Whether you’re in a new relationship or have a new hookup buddy on the horizon, let’s face it, your sexpectations are high. Maybe you’ve gotten bored of the same old thing, or perhaps you’re about to try something with someone new.

     Regardless, if the new warm weather has introduced an unfortunate sex-rut in your life, and it’s time to spice things up, you might wonder: how are you supposed to make sex great again? College comes with many hardships: managing school, social life, and extracurricular activities being a few. But more importantly, how to handle getting out of a dry spell with someone while there are a million other things to worry about. No matter who you plan on hooking up with, we all want a thriving sex life; the question is; how are you supposed to get there?

          Did you know that lack of sleep can actually decrease sex drive? Similarly, with the right amount of stress, you might not even be able to think of having sex. Unfortunately for college students, lack of sleep and stress seem to be an everyday thing. In order to improve your sex life, definitely try to get a good night’s sleep, but also make the whole experience more enjoyable and relaxing. In college, there are so many disappointments we must face, there’s no reason to have your sex life be one of them. With that being said, now might be the time to try new things, get out of your comfort zone, and just try to relax so you can actually have fun with your sexuality. Start the night out with a little bit of wine, or a lot of wine, and maybe incorporate some massage oil. If your current hookup buddy isn’t doing it for you, you have two options: go out and meet someone new or add some excitement with the current person. No matter who you’re enhancing your sex life with, I’m sure they’ll appreciate both your willingness and investment in certain things, like whipped cream (low-fat is the best and less sticky).  

          Although things may seem dull in a new relationship, with old friends with benefits, or a new person in your life, your sex life does not have to suffer. Don’t be afraid to try new things and initiate the moment; who cares if it’s while you’re on your couch watching Netflix and your roommate might walk in at any second. After all that’ll probably make things more exciting! There’s no need to overthink how things will turn out or what could go wrong – isn’t this a time when ghosting happens all the time anyway? If the person you’re with now isn’t satisfying your needs and you keep on searching for someone new everyone time you go out, why not take advantage of this time of sexual freedom? No matter who the lucky person is or what new things you choose to incorporate, just be sure to wear a condom.