For some going to college will not be their first time having sex. For others it’s a time for firsts, or a choice to wait until later in life. For college students somewhere on this spectrum, there is one absolute truth. Good sex starts with healthy sex.
Speaking literally, healthy sex has been defined as “having the knowledge and power to express sexuality in ways that enrich one’s life.” It’s simple in theory but complicated in practice. We live in an age where talking openly and comfortably about sex in educational and social settings is more common than ever. There are so many resources now to lean on for students.
At Bloomsburg, the Women’s Resource Center, the Health Center, and the Title IX offices are some of the many resources that provide free guidance and support. There are also unlimited online resources, some more trustworthy than others. But what does a healthy sex life in college, and beyond, actually mean?
Think of the 3 C’s.
Condoms & Protection
Whether it’s condoms, dental dams, or birth control, using protection isn’t about just preventing pregnancy, but also keeping you and your partner safe from STIs. The choice of what you use should be an individually made, informed choice on what is best for you.
Consent
With no debate, sex without consent is not sex, it’s assault. At the core of a healthy sex life, there must always be ongoing consent from all parties involved. Once there is any pressure or coercion to do something sexual, it is no longer sex and becomes assault. Someone who genuinely respects and deserves you would never force you to do anything that you do not want to do.
Communication
College is often referred to as a time where some “explore” sexually and try things for the first time, but that only works if you can openly talk to your partner about boundaries and desires.
Simply put, if you do not feel comfortable talking about sex to the person you are having sex with, you are probably not ready to be intimate with them in the first place. At the end of the day, a “healthy” sex life boils down to doing what makes you and your partner comfortable, safe, and respected. If it’s not fun and safe, it’s not worth your time
