Putting masturbation aside, sex is usually a two-person activity, which is confusing when men think sex is finished when they are done. It is also upsetting that foreplay has so many rules behind it.
Sex has unspoken rules that can be confusing and frustrating. The reason for it all is the lack of communication. No one talks about the difficulties and awkwardness of these “rules” but we will discuss some today.
For one to receive, one should give. There is no one way streak. It is rude to think that only your orgasm is important. Experience given, sex is not for you to feed into ones ego.
If the sex is not good, don’t fake moan or orgasm to make the other person happy. Tell them you didn’t enjoy yourself because your spots were not given attention to. This information is not to be confused with being overly dramatic, because that can be a turn-off as well.
You are not in a porno where your expression is everything. Yelling out random things about the sex too is not always the best, either. Relax and enjoy yourself. If you are in a relationship where this is common thing, you will never take pleasure.
It is also unfair if a person expects oral but doesn’t give. In a sexual relationship, it is sort of common courtesy to return the favor of oral to your partner. It doesn’t always need to be done but it’s the thought that counts. Even if they don’t want it, the fact you asked if they wanted is what matters.
In the most interesting places, ask if they want a blowjob or for you to go down on them. Spontaneity is very sexy. A person who doesn’t try in sex is not a good lover. This person only wants their desires fulfilled and could care less about yours.
During sex, men don’t like when their partner is just laying there. It is not okay for the women to let the men do everything. Laying there isn’t a turn on. Don’t doze off thinking about homework or your dog named Davie; be in the moment.
Foreplay is the start to a great beginning of sex. Don’t be afraid to touch each other, use your lips in the places they like and use your tongue to reach maximum pleasure. Possibly the person enjoys their balls being grabbed or doing doggy; do this to help him feel better. Perhaps she finds the most stimulation from her nipples; grab, kiss and lick them for her to climax too.
Some people might feel self conscious trying out new positions and such but being confident is a huge turn on for both sides. It is important to change up the positions to you being on top or start giving them oral. Don’t let that get in the way of you having fun.
Always wash your hands people and pee after having sex, since infections are easy to get. We hope finals week will be nice to you. We also hope you will have a beautiful winter break full of sex. Be horny, Huskies!