Fingering is not just something to be mindful of when playing an instrument. Fingering is the sexual act one can do to another or to themselves. It can be seriously overlooked and taken for granted.

For women, it can be something to help them get wet and ready for sex. It can also be a trigger for an orgasm. Not all women like this act. Therefore, you must remember to be communicative when doing certain things.

Before considering fingering yourself or your partner, wash your hands! There are so many dirty things on your hands and fingers that wouldn’t be sanitary to put into a vagina. Some vaginas are more sensitive than others. You have to be mindful of being clean. This means don’t finger or do butt-stuff and transfer back and forth to the vagina. This will give someone an infection that they certainly won’t want.

You should also know that fingering is a low-risk activity to catch STI’s. You still can in certain situations but it’s not common. Be aware that if you bleed during this act and you are not a virgin, you should talk to your doctor to make sure you don’t have any existing STI’s.

It is also important to know that you cannot just simply put a finger up there. That hurts! Make sure your partner is turned on by kissing her or possibly engaging in oral sex, then finger her if she is into it.

In some cases, that may be the way she wants to orgasm. It is not uncommon for them to want you to orgasm first, then for you to then finish them off by fingering.

When fingering her, understand you have the opportunity to kiss her, grab her breast with your other hand or talk dirty to her. The act of fingering should be done gently. You can move your fingers but not forcefully. Let her tell you what she wants.

Some may believe that fingering is for wimps and sex can fulfill the needs better than your fingers. But this is not true. Penetrative sex is not always the answer to good sex.

Fingering is something you can use to your advantage and have fun with. Be sure to not take this idea on your own without consent because you think she’ll enjoy it. Never assume. Be safe and have fun, Huskies!